“If I had just one tear
Running down your cheek
Maybe I could cope
Maybe I’d get some sleep
If I had just one moment at your exspense
Maybe all my misery
Would be well spent…yeaaaa
Could you cry a little
Lie just a little
Pretend that your feeling a little more pain
I gave now I’m wanting
Something in return
So cry just a little for me”
Cry– Faith Hill
“Livin’ my life in slow hell.
Different girl every night at the hotel.
I ain’t seen the sun shine in three damn days.
Been fuelin’ up on cocaine and whiskey.
Wish I had a good girl to miss me.
Lord, I wonder if I’ll ever change my ways.
I put your picture away.
Sat down and cried today.
I can’t look at you while I’m lying, next to her.
I put your picture away.
Sat down and cried today.
I can’t look at you while I’m lying, next to her.
Picture– Kid Rock and Sheryl Crow
There is a reason why so many poems are written by and about the lovelorn. It is the same reason why so many songs and movies are made about the same topic. Because sooner or later most people are going to fall in and out of love and during that experience they’ll learn the meaning of happiness and hell. Love is the ultimate roller coaster ride. At times it provides the sort of adrenalin rush that you cannot find anywhere else and then are moments of abject terror. Moments where you realize that someone other than you has taken over your heart and you are forced to accept that they have more influence on your happiness than you would like.
It is easy for some people to let go and fall into it. Some people haven’t any fear of losing control. They don’t fear the consequences of a broken heart because they just know that there are lots of fish in the sea. Others are not so sure about that. Others don’t know if they really believe that there are that many people out there who would love them the way that they wish to be love. And more importantly they don’t know if there are that many people out there who will let themselves be loved like that. We are not talking about your garden variety type of love where you hold hands and giggle about stupid things that no one else find funny.
No, we are talking about the more rare and precious kind of love. The kind of love that takes your breath away and makes your heart pound. We are talking about the sort of relationship where you both dive headfirst into the depths of the soul and go swimming without fear or drowning. You share one heart and your souls ache when they are apart. It is the kind of thing that those who haven’t experienced believe is a myth or if not that they chalk it up to being something entirely unhealthy. They tell you that two people can’t get lost like that. The naysayers will tell you that you are not describing love but lust or that you have an unhealthy addiction.
But the thing is that the two of you can become enmeshed in each other without subjugating your wills or spirit. You can walk together through a secret world that you create and experience the world through eyes that have never seen life through such bright and shiny colors.
The hard part about such a relationship is that sometimes it can run into hurdles and roadblocks. Sometimes you can fall into traps and pits that suck energy out of you. Sometimes you can get lost and think that you are better off separating. Fear and anger lead to harsh words and uncertainty and suddenly the most precious thing you had is broken. Fear and insecurity eat away at you and the person who once shared your heart is transported so far away from it you can’t imagine how to let them back in. Or maybe the fear and anger create a smokescreen that obscures your vision. Maybe you can’t see that he or she is still standing right next to you and that they too have been blinded by it all.
Instead of being blinded by a shining light there is a darkness that you sit  in. So the question you have to ask yourself is if you have fallen into a place where you cannot find your way out. Is there a minotaur roaming through the labyrinth you have been asked to navigate. Will you let the fear of that monster dictate your response or will you take action. And if you do take action what sort will it be. Will it be heroic. Will you use your strength and or cunning to defeat the monster. Or will fear cause you to flee the scene without taking a look back.
These are not simple questions to answer. Sometimes people choose to  take the road less taken because it is just what you have to do.  Some people take the road less taken because that is the only thing they know. Because they can’t stomach the idea that they just gave up. The hard part though is trying to determine when you should give in because there comes a time when the hero has to set sail for home regardless of whether he sails alone or with a companion. Because sometimes the path to success is to accept that sometimes you let go and walk alone.
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