There is more in common with sex and social media than you might think. If you want to give good social media you need to be open to real intimacy.
If you want to reach into a person’s heart and make them feel you have to do more than just give your body to them, you have to open doors that are often closed.
It really isn’t any different with social media,.
Connections
When I look at the most popular posts on the blog it is a mixture of humor and serious material. Posts about my relationship with my father have always done well.
It is not particularly profound or insightful to say they work because they provide a place for people to connect. Sometimes when I surf through the blogosphre the posts and comments I read make me think that the blogosphere is our collective cry for “connect with me.
Moving Sucks
When I was a kid I remember my father told me he moved 13 times growing up and that was why he didn’t want to move us around. He thought it would be easier if we stayed in one place and had roots.
And we did.
My kids had that for a good long while and then we sold the house and moved. It wasn’t my first choice, but it was necessary and ultimately I think it was a good thing.
But I still get angry when I look at The Story Of A House- The Final Days and I wonder when the fire inside will stop burning. Moved three times during 2013 and in a week I am going to move again.
All of these moves were planned and they have all helped my family so from that perspective I don’t mind them at all, but  I am looking forward to not having to move for a while.
But that is not going to happen with this move, this is another transition. We’ll be in the new place for a big chunk of time and unless I am totally mistaken we are going to really like it.
But I still am not thrilled about moving, it sucks.
The Worst Sex Ever
Do you really think I am going to tell you about my worst sexual experience? Yeah, I am unfiltered and willing to say anything to anyone, at any time but this is a family blog.
But I am happy to hedge a bit and tell you that some things can impact your mood and experience. Teeth, bodily fluids, smells and sounds can really make you smile or they can really make you wonder if you should run like hell.
Sometimes you look back and wonder if Allen Funt was going to jump out of the closet and tell you that you had been drugged and transported to cleveland as part of some Candid Camera prank.
How Is Social Media Responsible For Bad Sex
Several years ago I was trapped on a plane and forced to listen to the ravings of the guy sitting next to me.  One of the things I remember most was how he looked at my smartphone and told me that my phone and social media were responsible for bad sex.
I told him I agreed and that I wish my phone put out more and that I was really disappointed about how long it took to make it happy and then he told me I was weird.
Sadly I wasn’t weird enough for him to decide it would be better not to talk for six hours. Neither headphones nor fake snoring were enough to get him to shut up, but I digress.
The one thing that he said that made sense was that social media was going to make it impossible for people to talk and connect with each other and if they couldn’t connect we would all have bad sex.
I don’t agree with his belief that social media is going to kill our ability to talk or connect with others but I understand why he said what he said.
Because from his perspective people weren’t engaging in face to face communication and instead were talking via text.
And if you want to create a great experience in person or online than you have to find a way to be more than just pixels on a page.
What do you think?
Hi Jack, I agree that social media requires you to be a bit open, intimate and vulnerable to attract people that want to hang around.
I thought what you said to the guy on the plane about your phone was funny. You obviously have a quick wit.
Yesterday and today, I have been deactivating all of my social media accounts, except for my personal Facebook page where I keep in touch with family and friends and I am on the fence about Flipboard. Each one has notified me that it will take two weeks to a month, just in case I want to change my mind. My blog is going to have to stand on its own two feet. I just wanted to write and I am doing that. It is nice when someone reads it. Thank you 🙂
Hi Robin,
I like people and I like planes, but I don’t always like them together. 😉
It is awesome that you are focusing on writing. I love it and applaud those who are into it.
I don’t think social media would have helped my love life at all. No matter what the medium, as soon as you write five-foot-six it still screams SHORT.
Platform shoes? 😉
This makes me think, one, that I’m glad I got married before Twitter and FB were really bit.
And two, how I marvel at some people who are really good at social media. By good, I mean they really get people’s attention and participation. Me, not so much.
[I just wrote two paragraphs analyzing why, but it sounded like excuse-making, so I deleted it.]
Great stuff Jack!
Hi Barrett,
I am with you. I am glad I grew up before social media hit it big, especially YouTube. The guys and I did some really funny stuff that wouldn’t be nearly as cool if we got to revisit it as “grownups.”